So I’m going to be doing something real different today. Been working on a project for a couple of weeks though with a special lady ; Charity Chide .It’s going to be a short story which would be in parts , to keep y’all in suspense. So if you want to keep up make sure to check out my blog from time to time.
According to Wikipedia
Abuse is the improper usage or treatment of a thing, often to unfairly or improperly gain benefit. Abuse can come in many forms, such as: physical or verbal maltreatment, injury, assault, violation, rape, unjust practices, crimes, or other types of aggression.
So in general terms ,abuse can’t be called a good thing . It’s a legitimate bad thing . No matter who does it and whatsoever. People who are abused tend not to be able to disclose it to anyone due to fear of the abuser / stigmatism/ inner demons .
Aisha Mirza once said ” It’s not the bruises on the body that hurt . It’s the wounds of the heart and the scars of the mind.
“Deep right ?
Now here is where Charity Chide comes in …….Ladies and gentlemen , I give you
THE ABUSED – PART 1.
It is with a heavy heart I’m writing this letter to you. Understand, Dear Parents that I love you. Oh, how I love you! Understand that it is this love that drives me to write to you. I rather you not in the misery my actions will cost you. I rather you don’t wake up every morning thinking what you did wrong. I want you to know. I need you to know.Dear Parents, I’m tired. You’d wonder what would make a sixteen years old tired. I’m not working. I don’t have a husband. And like Mom usually said: ‘ *No be sey man dey knack you for night o*’
If only you knew how much truth that statement held. You didn’t. But now you will. Not yet. But you will.Dear Parents, you gave me everything I wanted. But you never gave me what I *needed*
You’d wonder what it was I needed. I didn’t need the monthly pocket money you always gave me. Sure I wanted it. But I didn’t need it. What I needed was for you not to shield me so much! Because, Dear Parents, the enemy of a man is in his household. Jesus’ words. Not mine.
What i needed was for you, Mum and Dad to ask how I was!I was brilliant! You knew it! So I didn’t need you always asking about how my classes were. You knew! I won prices every time! I was the best. In everything I did. It didn’t surprise you when I’d bring a letter home from school. I was always being awarded for one thing or another.
I wanted that. But I didn’t need it.
Mummy, Daddy, when have you ever told me you loved me? All I ever heard was: ‘We’re proud of you!’
‘We’re in awe of you!’
‘Keep it up!’
I wanted to hear all that! But I never heard what I needed to hear!
I needed you to tell me you loved me! For once! Just once! So I’d have had something to cling to. But I had nothing!
No wonder I fell so easily for Danjuma’s words. I fell for the words. Not the man. Never the man. How could I love such a tyrant? Just once Mummy. Just once. Remember when I told you I loved you Mummy?
I’m sure you do. Remember your reply? I’m sure you don’t.I told my own mother I loved her and she replies me with ‘Thank you!’ Thank you! Did I give you a gift?! Did I?! I can’t remember doing anything worth thanking me for.
Even if you were thanking me for loving you. An ‘I love you too’ would have sufficed. I wanted that word of appreciation but did I need it?
Mummy, Abuse is not when you hit me. Abuse is not only physical. Abuse can be emotional too….To be continued..✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨
The unintentional form of abuse is the worst form of abuse the abuser could be practicing any type of abuse on the abused without clear knowledge, and in this case of the girl above she is being emotionally abused and that’s the worst type .
Because emotionally abused people then to resort into depression , suicidal tendencies that end up coming true . They also do not show it instead they find something or someone to make them happy , it could be drugs , a person or people .But this can be stopped you know, when you start to see the following signs.
- Slow withdrawal from family and friends.
- Cranky or weird behavioral patterns.
- Mood swings.
- Unhealthy obsession or addiction to certain things or people.
- Anorexia or obesity , e.t.c
When the above signs are noticed it’s advised you have a talk with the person even if you are a parent or relative even a friend could do the job . If you feel like you aren’t cut out for it , you can always visit a therapist .✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨
For more you can always check on my blog from time to time ..And Charity and I would be available if you need to contact us.
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And also Charity
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